BOOK REVIEW ON "PARENTS RETIRE, PARENTING DOES NOT"
Book Review
on: Parents Retire, Parenting does
not Author: Nisaar Nadiawaala
Number of pages: 63
Publisher: Grandma Jeddah’s e-Books
Assalamualiakum Warahamatulahi wabaraka tha hu!
I have just finished a stupendous,
prepossessing Book! Parents retire,
Parenting does not is raising
core issues of parents, parenting child or children and the challenges they are confronting in the 21st century, which parents
never exposed like before. Which makes their responsibility tougher in
upbringing their children along with inculcating Islamic ethos ever, as it’s
demanded now, as stated in the book
“Children
are among the most valuable assets of society, but if they are neglected they
can turn into liabilities not just for their families but for the entire
society as well”
I think this book able to clinch the motive
principle of a writer's work precisely. Many real life examples, parents are
irresponsible by limiting their responsibility towards their children, though
the children are the most affectionate part of the parents but we see today
most of the parents they become materialistic, just focusing on providing food,
cloths, money, academic education, child getting high rank, fame or not and
other side complete apathy on building a impeccable Islamic character.
One of the eye grabbing statements from
the book “Many Sins Begin At Home” and summary of it shows Unlslamic
parents behavior at home, lie, backbiting, abusing or foul language, watching
Harram Movies music, domestic violence and not observing Hijab before Na Mahaarams,
etc. which left a adverse effect or impact on the mind of the child, first step
towards moving away from his Creator Allah Almighty. The consequences of these,
patents have to bear in future as one of the Muslim families who don’t adhered Islam spiritually one of the
daughters went to other faith and many children dreaming to become like
some Hollywood and Bollywood so called star and eventually they end up their
life in druggist and Alcoholic.
This book also addressing a dangerous
aspect of Television acting as
babysitter, letting children spend hours
and watching fiction, figment or unrealistic movies, cartoons, Superman,
Batman, Cinderella, Snow White, Aladdin,
author described as “in
reality “decorated scripts” inspired
by men and Shaytan to deceive” based on the Qur’an verse from suran
Al-An’am. There is completely
irresponsibility of parents guiding their children and teaching Islamic way of
life, based on Qur’an and Sunnah and not teaching real stories of the greatest
personalities which ever walk on earth,
Prophets of Allah and his last messenger Mohammed (pbuh) and then his
companions (Sahabas).
“These people must realize that arithmetic,
science, and languages are not enough to civilize people.” There is a
strong criticism towards current education system and the parents, who believes
securing higher grades is only way become successful, downrightly making a materialistic
person and complete apathy on moral teaching to develop student upright
character by Education institutions and parents. Also Stressing on inclining
towards Islamic Education for the
children, and verily this same Islamic Education which produced Islamic Icons
likes Companions of Prophet 
, Aisha 
, Anas bin Malik and Ibn Abbas etc…
, Aisha , Anas bin Malik and Ibn Abbas etc…
“Alice in Wonderland & the Muslimah in
Cyberland” & “A time will come when a man wakes
up as a Muslim but in the evening he will die on kufr!”(Hadith). These statement of the book will make parents,
emphasizing to realized how dangerous role of Internet to corrupted and dilute
mind of the young Muslims, specially girls involving with Na Maharms , today
most of the parents having no ideal of perilous
Internet, social website. Another Muslim father fretful because
of his daughter want to marry Man belongs to Christian faith, she met him on
Internet.
The most important or whole soul of the
book according to me, which has been addressed in his book very distinctly on lack
of communication between Parents and Children, in brief. In terms of
Deen demonstration, building Islamic environment at home, attention to detail
about all aspects of behavior reinforced by your own behavior. You have to
practice what you preach. Very beautiful lines to read, even in a cool winter father goes to
masjid along with his son “So that my son
cultivates the habit of being regular in the masjid right from his childhood,”
A daughter is only 7 years old “She rarely appears before any non-mahram
visitor in the drawing room. This is the impact of having an Islamic
environment at home & 9 year old Son taking permission entering to his
parent’s bed room. Relation of the parents and child must be
friendly so that child can discuss and share his emotions, feeling openly with
parents, let them show empathy on each other which eventually develop immense
love between them and respect in the heart of the children towards parents. Ponder
upon this hadith, "A time will come when children will give preference to
their friends over their parents.” It really touches yours heart while reading
many sections of this book, parents must break the communication barriers then
only able to instill Islamic teaching, guiding them towards righteousness and
preventing them doing evil.
The Author of this book (Parents Retire, Parenting does not)
“Nisaar Nadiawaala”
Must deserves felicitation or appreciation for his excellent work. His analysis
based on realistic approach and many examples based on real life experience and
additionally the accurate statistic, data which evoke readers and let the
strong impact on readers’ mind, which ties them to read till the end. I believe this book well accommodated with
all important crucial needful information for the Muslim parents of this era.
Reviewed By: Adv. Mohammed Asif Ali
