BOOK REVIEW ON "PARENTS RETIRE, PARENTING DOES NOT"

BOOK REVIEW ON "PARENTS RETIRE, PARENTING DOES NOT" 

Book Review on: Parents Retire, Parenting does not                             Author: Nisaar Nadiawaala

Number of pages: 63                                 

                                                                                                                 Publisher: Grandma Jeddah’s e-Books

Assalamualiakum  Warahamatulahi wabaraka tha hu!

     I have just finished a stupendous, prepossessing Book! Parents retire, Parenting does not  is raising core issues of parents, parenting child or children and the  challenges they are confronting  in the 21^st century, which parents never exposed like before. Which makes their responsibility tougher in upbringing their children along with inculcating Islamic ethos ever, as it’s demanded now, as stated in the book                                        

                                                                                                                                                                            

“Children are among the most valuable assets of society, but if they are neglected they can turn into liabilities not just for their families but for the entire society as well”

     I think this book able to clinch the motive principle of a writer's work precisely. Many real life examples, parents are irresponsible by limiting their responsibility towards their children, though the children are the most affectionate part of the parents but we see today most of the parents they become materialistic, just focusing on providing food, cloths, money, academic education, child getting high rank, fame or not and other side complete apathy on building a impeccable Islamic character.

     One of the eye grabbing statements from the book “Many Sins Begin At Home” and summary of it shows Unlslamic parents behavior at home, lie, backbiting, abusing or foul language, watching Harram Movies music, domestic violence and not observing Hijab before Na Mahaarams, etc. which left a adverse effect or impact on the mind of the child, first step towards moving away from his Creator Allah Almighty. The consequences of these, patents have to bear in future as one of the Muslim families who don’t adhered Islam spiritually one of the daughters went to other faith and many children dreaming to become like some Hollywood and Bollywood so called star and eventually they end up their life in druggist and Alcoholic.

     This book also addressing a dangerous aspect of  Television acting as babysitter,  letting children spend hours and  watching fiction, figment or  unrealistic movies, cartoons, Superman, Batman, Cinderella, Snow White, Aladdin,  author described as “in reality “decorated scripts” inspired by men and Shaytan to deceive” based on the Qur’an verse from suran Al-An’am. There is completely irresponsibility of parents guiding their children and teaching Islamic way of life, based on Qur’an and Sunnah and not teaching real stories of the greatest personalities which ever walk  on earth, Prophets of Allah and his last messenger Mohammed (pbuh) and then his companions (Sahabas).

    “These people must realize that arithmetic, science, and languages are not enough to civilize people.” There is a strong criticism towards current education system and the parents, who believes securing higher grades is only way become successful, downrightly making a materialistic person and complete apathy on moral teaching to develop student upright character by Education institutions and parents. Also Stressing on inclining towards Islamic Education  for the children, and verily this same Islamic Education which produced Islamic Icons likes Companions of Prophet , Aisha , Anas bin Malik  and Ibn Abbas  etc…

    “Alice in Wonderland & the Muslimah in Cyberland” & “A time will come when a man wakes up as a Muslim but in the evening he will die on kufr!”(Hadith).  These statement of the book will make parents, emphasizing to realized how dangerous role of Internet to corrupted and dilute mind of the young Muslims, specially girls involving with Na Maharms , today most of the parents having no ideal of perilous Internet, social website. Another Muslim father fretful because of his daughter want to marry Man belongs to Christian faith, she met him on Internet.

     The most important or whole soul of the book according to me, which has been addressed in his book very distinctly on lack of communication between Parents and Children, in brief. In terms of Deen demonstration, building Islamic environment at home, attention to detail about all aspects of behavior reinforced by your own behavior. You have to practice what you preach. Very beautiful lines to read, even in a cool winter father goes to masjid along with his son  “So that my son cultivates the habit of being regular in the masjid right from his childhood,” A daughter is only 7 years old “She rarely appears before any non-mahram visitor in the drawing room. This is the impact of having an Islamic environment at home & 9 year old Son taking permission entering to his parent’s bed room. Relation of the parents and child must be friendly so that child can discuss and share his emotions, feeling openly with parents, let them show empathy on each other which eventually develop immense love between them and respect in the heart of the children towards parents. Ponder upon this hadith, "A time will come when children will give preference to their friends over their parents.”  It really touches yours heart while reading many sections of this book, parents must break the communication barriers then only able to instill Islamic teaching, guiding them towards righteousness and preventing them doing evil.

    The Author of this book (Parents Retire, Parenting does not) “Nisaar Nadiawaala” Must deserves felicitation or appreciation for his excellent work. His analysis based on realistic approach and many examples based on real life experience and additionally the accurate statistic, data which evoke readers and let the strong impact on readers’ mind, which ties them to read till the end.  I believe this book well accommodated with all important crucial needful information for the Muslim parents of this era.

Reviewed By:  Adv. Mohammed Asif Ali

A INSPIRING STORY: YASH CHOPRA & BOLLYWOOD TO ZAKIR NAIK & HIJAB: SUCH A SHORT JOURNEY

YASH CHOPRA & BOLLYWOOD TO ZAKIR NAIK & HIJAB: SUCH A SHORT JOURNEY

She wanted to be like Kareena Kapoor, and “could not wait to act in a movie”. In her last year of college, she “got offers from casting directors who would scout for faces in campuses and on Facebook”. But her “well-to-do” Mumbai-based Kashmiri Muslim family would not allow her to take up any film job unless it was offered by Yash Chopra’s YRF (Yash Raj Films). That was in 2012.

Two years on, Murcyleen Peerzada, a 23-year-old Kashmiri woman based in Mumbai, does not idolise Kareena. She now dreams of “being like Yasmin Mogahed”, an Egypt-born American preacher known for her talks and articles on Islam.

There are other changes in Peerzada’s life. She has given up her “Westernised, flamboyant” lifestyle. From a “crazy shopaholic” who would lap up the “most expensive dresses and jeans”, she now wears an all-black burqa. Speaking to The Indian Express over phone, she says, “During my last trip to Dubai, I bought a lot of burqas; earlier, I’d shop for Western clothes.”

Her social media profile pictures have gone from her posing in glamorous tops to one in which she is draped in a hijab. All covered up, Peerzada is now an orator with the Mumbai-based, Zakir Naik-headed Islamic Research Foundation, and gives public talks on Islam in the city. Her last talk was at a ladies-only conference in Srinagar.

What caused the sudden, drastic transformation in Peerzada’s aspirations and lifestyle? The Islamic preacher, though, says the change was anything but drastic. It began, she says, with Bollywood. Her father, Feroze Peerzada, a wealthy businessman who “had known Yash Chopra for the last three decades, since the days he wanted to be an actor” introduced her to the late Yash Chopra & Bollywood to Zakir Naik & hijab: such a short journey filmmaker in 2012. He offered her the job of an assistant director on the movie Ek Tha Tiger.

“That, I took, as a stepping stone to becoming an actor. I was fascinated with acting.” Then, she was signed up for YRF’s Shuddh Desi Romance as a costume assistant director. But since the director Maneesh Sharma likes to take up newcomers for his movies, he asked her to do a screen test. “When I faced the camera, I suddenly felt exposed, emotionally and physically, even though I was wearing a salwar kameez. I felt vulnerable and uncomfortable. I just got up, and said, ‘I don’t want to do this,’” she says.

After some introspection, she realised that “actors are always so exposed” and texted Yash Chopra’s son, filmmaker Aditya Chopra, that she has changed her mind about acting. “I didn’t even want to be an assistant director any more. It’s too hectic a job. What’s the point if you don’t want to be an actor any more?” she says. She then decided to become a costume stylist and began working with designer Manish Malhotra. Then, in October 2012, Yash Chopra passed away. “He was my mentor, and when he died, I felt I lost a big support. The idea of death shook me. I started questioning life. I wanted to look beyond singing, dancing and all that rubbish. What is the purpose of this life, I started thinking,” she says.

Peerzada quit her work with Malhotra, and sat at home for three-four months. “I was depressed. All my friends were being launched in the film world. And here I was, giving up all opportunities,” she says. Then, she saw a file of papers gathering dust in her home. “It was lying around in our home for six years. Someone had come and given that file to us, and we never bothered to look it up,” she says.

That evening in early 2013, she finally looked it up. It was a transcript of a video of Zakir Naik on the topic ‘Women in Islam’. “I was not religious. I would pray only occasionally. But this file gripped me. I finished reading it that evening itself,” she says. That helped her find her “purpose in life”.

friends with the righteous people, the company that will guide you to the right side.” Peerzada, in line with her lectures, has cut off with all her “partying, clubbing friends”.

Though Peerzada, who is doing her Masters in Islamic Studies from the Islamic Online University in Qatar, says she focuses on the “spiritual aspects” of the religion, and “has no say on who wears what”, some of her posts on Instagram suggest otherwise. “They (the media) reduce women to objects that satisfy men and cause only a negative impact in people’s life including social networking sites. All the girls should learn to value themselves and their bodies. Cover up for the sake of Allah! Your body and also your character… My friends aren’t the girls who display themselves to the world, my friends are the girls who say they believe in Allah and prove it everyday. They’re the kinds that will Insha Allah reunite with me in jannah. Their goal isn’t ‘boys, parties and fashion’. Their goal is jannah.”

Peerzada feels that young Muslims are “bombarded with Westernisation”. “Half the songs we listen to and hum support a swag lifestyle. You know, like Kanye West’s song I am a God.” Her other issue with young Muslims is that they “don’t understand the meaning of the Quran because they’ve only read it in Arabic”. “We need to connect to the youth, speak in their language, be like some online preachers who are so joyful and approachable,” she says.

It seems she is on that path to “connect to the Muslim youth”. She writes in a post on Instagram: “Yesterday there was a musical concert in Kashmir 15 minutes away from our conference which was attended by Bollywood actors Sohail Khan and Suniel Shetty. For Kashmir, that’s something rare. We were asked to move our conference so that we may be able to pull a crowd. But look at Allah’s greatness, we gathered a crowd of 4,000 people and the concert a crowd of 200.” In a video she posted, Kashmiri women are haggling to shake hands with Peerzada, dressed in a shimmering black cloak. “I was walking in a street in Mumbai, and five young burqa-clad girls came to me and said that they recognise me as someone who’s give a public talk,” she says.

“I researched online and watched YouTube videos of Nouman Ali Khan and Yasmin Mogahed. I felt very enlightened and wanted to be like them,” she says. But she first needed to learn about religion. So, in March 2013, she enrolled for a course at IRF, under the tutelage of Farha Naik, the wife of Zakir Naik, “the most accurate researcher”. “I am doing their most advanced course in order to become an IRF orator,” she says. Giving talks at the IRF centre in Mumbai is a part of her course. She has delivered close to 10 lectures so far and, on August 10, she organised an ‘Islamic peace conference’ in Srinagar with the help of her father, “who has been supportive of and is inspired by” her transformation.

Her tweets are usually re-tweets of Islamic scholars, and most are spiritual, asking people to turn to Allah to solve problems in their lives. “I don’t believe in teaching extremism. I have a very liberal approach towards religion. Angry speeches are not going to eventually appeal to the young, only love and wisdom can. Islam is a religion in controversy, and it needs youngsters like us to reach out to young Muslims in a humourous, light manner. American preacher Nouman Ali Khan cracks jokes in between his talks. That’s how it should be,” she says.

None of Peerzada’s talks are up on YouTube, but on Instagram, where she goes by the username ‘turntoallah’ and has 19,000 followers, she has posted 10-15-second videos of the Srinagar conference. In one, she says, “Nobody forced me. I started wearing the hijab on my own. I have never felt so strong and liberated in my life.”

In another clip, she says, “I don’t want to be a seductress, calling people to the wrong things, which is why I left and I think that is the best decision I’ve ever made in my life.” One video has her saying, “Be

friends with the righteous people, the company that will guide you to the right side.” Peerzada, in line with her lectures, has cut off with all her “partying, clubbing friends”.

Though Peerzada, who is doing her Masters in Islamic Studies from the Islamic Online University in Qatar, says she focuses on the “spiritual aspects” of the religion, and “has no say on who wears what”, some of her posts on Instagram suggest otherwise. “They (the media) reduce women to objects that satisfy men and cause only a negative impact in people’s life including social networking sites. All the girls should learn to value themselves and their bodies. Cover up for the sake of Allah! Your body and also your character… My friends aren’t the girls who display themselves to the world, my friends are the girls who say they believe in Allah and prove it everyday. They’re the kinds that will Insha Allah reunite with me in jannah. Their goal isn’t ‘boys, parties and fashion’. Their goal is jannah.”

Peerzada feels that young Muslims are “bombarded with Westernisation”. “Half the songs we listen to and hum support a swag lifestyle. You know, like Kanye West’s song I am a God.” Her other issue with young Muslims is that they “don’t understand the meaning of the Quran because they’ve only read it in Arabic”. “We need to connect to the youth, speak in their language, be like some online preachers who are so joyful and approachable,” she says.

It seems she is on that path to “connect to the Muslim youth”. She writes in a post on Instagram: “Yesterday there was a musical concert in Kashmir 15 minutes away from our conference which was attended by Bollywood actors Sohail Khan and Suniel Shetty. For Kashmir, that’s something rare. We were asked to move our conference so that we may be able to pull a crowd. But look at Allah’s greatness, we gathered a crowd of 4,000 people and the concert a crowd of 200.” In a video she posted, Kashmiri women are haggling to shake hands with Peerzada, dressed in a shimmering black cloak. “I was walking in a street in Mumbai, and five young burqa-clad girls came to me and said that they recognise me as someone who’s give a public talk,” she says.

http://indianexpress.com/article/india/india-others/yash-chopra-bollywood-to-zakir-naik-hijab-such-a-short-journey/