THE PROPOSAL AND THE MANNERS OF PROPHET MOHAMMED(PBUH).
There is two Sahi
Hadith of prophet Mohammed(pbuh) which we know generally and there is great teaching for the Ummah but there is somethng if we ponder on
it you will more amaze with manners of prophet Mohammed(pbuh).
First hadith:
It was narrated that Thaabit al-Banaani said: I was with Anas, and he had
with him a daughter of his. Anas said: A woman came to the Messenger of Allah
(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and offered herself to him (for
marriage). She said: O Messenger of Allah, do you have any need of me? The
daughter of Anas said: How lacking in modesty she was; how shameful, how shameful!
Anas said: She was better than you; she wanted to marry the Prophet (blessings
and peace of Allah be upon him), so she offered herself to him (for marriage).
[Sahi Bukhari 4828]
[Sahi Bukhari 4828]
Second Hadith:
Narrated by Sahl bin Sad As-Sa'idi
“A woman came to Allah's Apostle and said, "O Allah's Apostle! I have
come to give you myself in marriage (without Mahr)." Allah's Apostle
looked at her. He looked at her carefully and fixed his glance on her and then
lowered his head. When the lady saw that he did not say anything, she sat
down……”
[Sahi Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 24]
[Sahi Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 24]
Summary:
1) First It shows that it permissible to offer or sending proposal to
person who you found religion committed , good attitude and qualities.
2) It is not considered something abominable in Islam if anyone send
marriage proposal, and matter of fact in the hadith Daughter of Anas(r.a)
denounced it but She was recorrected and her action reprimand by Anas(r.a)
3) How prophet Mohammed(pbuh) was reacted and replied to her ?
a) Here we can see the excellenct pattern of behaviour of prophet
Mohammed(pbuh) .
As the Matter of fact prophet pbuh don’t wanted to marry her, Here a woman
come to her wanted to marry Him, The best Human on the Earth, the most modest,
the most Shy person.
b) Did He rebuke her ? Did He Hurt her feeling, sentiments ? Did He use
any such words to show his resentment towards her for marrying him ? The Answer
is No !
Prophet Remain silent because prophet don’t wanted to hurt her feeling,
her sentiments, her emotions and kind of sincere love she carry for Prophet of
Allah. He don’t wanted to break her Heart.
He is prophet of Allah, the most wise, the most beautiful, the most
modest, the most shy person, the most handsome person on the earth. If the
prophet Mohammed(pbuh) wanted would have criticize her for daring to asking for
marriage. No, he didn’t do like that as Allah says in the Qur’an ch 33 verse 21
“Verily in the in the Messenger of Allah a you have beautiful(best) pattern (of
conduct/ behaviour)….”
