“DON'T BE A WORST THAN A
RUBBER STAMP"
Few year back a Muslim Girl on facebook from Hyderabad City(India)
sought help in order to understand her Hindu boyfriend to convince about Islam,
so He became Muslim and Eventually She can marry him. She ask lots of questions
and He asked too on Islam, & later on, He declared his Faith on Islam and
became Muslim, there was a issue on his Name because It contain Name of Shirk,
I advise change the Name, discussion went through the Mail privately, finally I
have done Allhamdulilha afterwards never had any private discussion with them
& later I have check her facebook found they have married, felt happy both
are now on strong faith on Islam & living happily.
Initially I thought it would be
useless, if I would have directly criticized her for having boyfriend and have
harram relationship, I had fear she would have become murtad or she will marry
him as he being Hindu only.
This girl regularly on our page, use
to give good MashAllah Islamic comments, I just thought to give a look Fb of
that Boy and When I saw, I just felt terrible, astonished, shocking, oblivion,
that boy, she married, he is greeting on Hindu festivals & Celebrating,
recently last Diwali etc.. Besides posting some Islamic posts & Boy has not
changed his Name as well. My mind just became blank for a moment, Is he really
accepted Islam or just Name sake to marry Her or She really think He Is Muslim?
Or recited Sahadaah just for show off ?. She simply betrayed Me, Misused my
knowledge just to fulfill her lust, infact both, its was heart breaking for me.
The Wali(Guardians) & two witness she
appointed in order to solemnized Valid Nikah, are these two 'Wali' had not did
little bit of cross examine the boy, whether his faith on Islam out of believe
on Allah or just to fulfill merely a marriage protocol because of love on her
girlfriend more, rather than believe on Allah.
For the importance of Wali in Islam,
read the book [I want to marry, but... by Nisaar Y. Nadiadwala. May Allah bless
him. Ameen.] in the book brother described Wali as
“The Arabic word ‘wali’ means a Well
wisher, a Protector, a Guardian”
[“…The guardian is not a mere rubber
stamp for fulfilling protocols of nikah….but a man who out of concern makes
proper investigation about the family background of the boy and negotiates all
aspects of marriage. He has a sense of responsibility regarding the happiness
of his daughter. He does not want his daughter to be cheated into a nikah. He
wants to examine the religious aspects too, so that his daughter may not end up
in a marriage that can be a threat to her Aakhira. That is what the wali is
for.”]
Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) said: “Any woman who gets married without the permission of
her guardian, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is
invalid.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1102), classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in
Irwa’ al-Ghaleel (1840).
The ‘wali’ she has appointed they
are not even qualified as a rubber stamp which is available on any groceries
shop, but they are worst than rubber stamp, as they have not even investigate,
whether the boy is Muslim or not, basic Aqeeda, creeds of Islam, leave aside
other things.
These wali’ & witnesses actually
agreed that Marrying with a Non-Muslim is allowed in Islam, Shirk is permissible,
kufr is permissible, etc…Though they might not be agreed straight away but
when they have anointed as ‘wali’, not guiding her properly, thought it’s their
duty guided her properly, even they have to guided not to marry him as he is
unfit for a Muslim girl.
"There is no person to whom
Allaah has given people to take care of, and he fails to take care of them
properly, but he will not smell the fragrance of Paradise." (Saheeh
Bukhari no. 6731; Saheeh Muslim, no. 142)
Requesting to the Muslim Brothers,
Don’t rush to become Wali, whenever a Muslim Girls comes after run’s harrami
relationship after long time, with her Kafir Boyfriend & wanted to marry
him. Wali is responsibility, you will be accountable on the day of Judgment for
sure In Shaa Allah, you will be in big trouble, you will be responsible for
everything which goes wrong with her, which you have not concerned about it.
Prophet Mohammed(pbuh) said.
“Every one of you is a shepherd and
is responsible for his flock. The leader of the people is a guardian and is
responsible for his subjects: a man is the guardian of his family and is
responsible for his subjects, a woman is the guardian of her husband’s home and
of his children and is responsible for them, and the slave of a man is a
guardian of his master’s property and is responsible for it. Surely, everyone
of you is a shepherd and responsible for his flock.”
[Sahih Muslim, Book 20, Number 4496]
Be a Wali in true sense, guide them
as you guide your own sisters & daughters, don’t destroy yours Akhira, you
will be accountable for your roles and responsibility, don’t become just a name
sake wali, having a believe we are saving a Muslim girl, being a wali in her
marriage’.
Actually this attitude causing most
of the Muslim girls running after kafir boys and later destroying their own
worldly life and Akhira, given a incurable wounds, pain to their parents.
How can that girl can be trusted or
can be said she is right when she have kicked her own parents taking not as
'wali' & appointing someone else, in order to marry a kafir, the guy who
marry her has to be an idiot, when she can stab back her own parents,
mercilessly, does she will spare him ?
As Most of the Questions, we were
use to received on our page inbox most of the questions asked by the Muslim
girls, her boyfriend is Non Muslim and Want marry him & how to convince
about Islam.
My answer is Simple:
“Why He will accept Islam when you
have shown the lowest character, being a Muslimah, what difference make between
you being Muslimah and other girls? Nothing! “
May Allah give Hidaya to our Muslim
girls that life is not a Hollywood or Bollywood etc.. Love stories.
[ “DON'T BE A WORST THAN A RUBBER
STAMP:” BY #MohammedAsifAli #AdvAsifAli]
